Why You Need To Start Saying No More Often


If you’re feeling like your schedule is a little too hectic and you have wayyy to much going on — you’re probably saying yes to too many things. 

It’s time to learn the power of saying no.

I know what you might be thinking. I’ll have serious FOMO (fear of missing out) if I don’t go to this. I’ll hurt someone’s feelings by not showing up. I feel bad saying no.

The reality is, everytime you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else. That time could be spent working towards the things that you really want to be spending your time on. Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard to say no things but when you realize that you’re taking away from the promises you made to yourself, then it gets easier. 

Unnecessary commitments eat away at your time and one thing about life that won’t change is the amount of hours in a day. We need to be mindful of how we spend those hours.

For example, you may have set out to launch a new product this month but you’re struggling to find the time to get it done. This is when we need to look at where exactly we are spending our time. Is attending a lunch meeting more important than fulfilling that promise to get your product out there? Probably not. 

In situations like this, if the meeting needs to be had, simply suggest a phone call or even an email update if possible. Taking the time to go out to lunch cuts into your time that you could be spending on something more important to you. 

It’s hard but it’s worth it. Once you don’t feel like you’re overcommitted you’ll be able to do your best work. You’ll have the time and the energy to get it done.

Think about it for a second.. Saying yes to something other than what you really want to be doing is putting other people’s priorities above your own. Then there’s the fact that you’re always on the go doing something for someone else that there’s no time to rest and take care of yourself.

You’ll start to feel stressed and frustrated that you don’t have the time for yourself and then when something important comes up that you really want to do, you won’t have the time and energy to do it. 

If this is sounding way too familiar to you, it’s time to take back control over your time. 

Warren Buffet explains, “the difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.”

They are so laser focused on their dreams and goals that saying “no” is a no brainer. Science has even shown that saying “no” improves productivity and mental health. 

Can you imagine having the time to actually follow through on commitments to yourself and how great that will feel once you do? 

*champagne bottles popping, confetti flying* 

Success will come based on your ability to honor your commitment to yourself. It all comes down to your choice on where your time is being spent.

When you come across a situation when you feel stuck between wanting to make someone else happy and wanting to make yourself happy, remind yourself that saying no to someone else really just means you’re saying yes to something you really want to commit yourself to. 

Here are a few tips for how to say no to something:

  1. Keep it short and quick. No need to go into a long explanation of why you can’t do something. Simply say sorry I can’t attend or I can’t do that right now. 

  2. Suggest an alternative. This could be to replace the initial ask with something that will take less time or you can suggest someone else who may be able to attend or do what’s being asked. 

  3. Ask for a raincheck.  If now is not a good time for something but it is something you would like to do in the future, simply say I can’t right now, but how about next week/month etc. 

The bottom line is that you deserve the time for yourself and in order to protect that, you’ll have to say no to some things. 

Does this resonate with you? What are some things you can start saying no to?